I am going to catch hell for this with my FOO...but screw it. I want my kids to be able to grieve however they want to when I die. I think if I can offer that to my niece and nephews I should. H said, "here we go again"... but he's the one that said to my nephew, "plan it and I'll make it happen".

I know they won't be extravagant. We know a lot of people, we can get a chapel and minister for free. We can get musicians for free. We can do a powerpoint photo display for free. It isn't that hard. It's just food for after, and most churches have a fellowship hall.