Wiki... I understand the FOO thing too... my BIL left my sister (long story) and he's a minister anyway he is also one of my H's best friends so we are caught in the middle...

Wiki... see if you can get a group of your friends to help you out... take all help you can get... all those church people who said "if there's anything we can do..." call one of them up and let that person assign the rest of them a dish to bring...

ETA: it doesn't matter if its not in the same town... they can drive it there... (for all those sincere people they will be happy to do it... and for all those who truely didn't mean it...well it will teach them a lesson to not say "if there's ever anything I can do")