Wiki, my brother stopped me from attending the funeral of my long-term T because she was also his SIL. I should say he bullied me. He totally disregarded my feelings. My next T, who my T, the SIL , had recommended to me, was like, where were you? Why weren't you there? These children would always regret this not being done. This just proves who your mother and brother are, as if there were any doubt.