Hi

I just want to say that I think sitting down and talking with both of them is a realy good idea. If I were the friend I think I would feel best about you saying it right to me instead of hearing you were displeased with me elsewhere. Better getting it all out in the open then.

I know how bad I feel when other kids parents tell their kids they don't like my behaviour. And even if it is a touchy subject i think it's a good idea to say what you think about it.

I don't know how boys feel but maybe it would be good if your husband talked with them a little by himself, personally I would feel very uncomfortable having a man talking to me about these things.