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Originally Posted by karbear
Is there another way to stop keeping the secret. My experience is the more secret the abuse is kept the more you are in bondage. You need to find a safe way to get rid of it. I have wrote letters and then burned them in a metal can outside. The act of writing gets it out of you and onto paper-keeping the secret inside is what keeps you bound. I tell people about abuse whether they want to hear it. A journal may help. I write on papers and then rip them to shreds so no one can read them. If you can't find anyone who care to listen to you-write them down and then decide if you want to keep them burn them or find another way to get the story out of you.
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If I end up in group it will be another way to let things out. I do not have people in my life I can disclose to. I do write in a journal at times, but so far I'm not sure how much it helps me. Although I am terrified of group, I do think that it may help.
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Originally Posted by Sannah
We can support you here as you get used to the group. I didn't trust females because of my mom and I got a lot better at it. When I was in a situation where I wasn't doing well with a female I would tell myself right in that moment that this female is not my mom. It really helped. You can also share in group that you aren't comfortable if you feel okay about that. When is your first meeting?
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Thank you. I do try very hard to remind myself that when I get upset it may very well be linked to the past. Instinct, though, is hard to change. Tomorrow I have my second meeting with the head of the group. I am quite nervous, but I hope it will ease my mind of the whole group process. I should find out during the meeting if I am joining or not, and when my first meeting will be.