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Originally Posted by pachyderm
Kind of an all or nothing approach, isn't it? Understandable. But -- this T must be totally incompetent/an enemy, or completely wonderful. Do you have to decide this immediately? Can you go to the session with the question in your mind of how competent she is, and continue to see if you can get more actual information about that?
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Thanks for your comments Pachy - I suppose it must sound like the classic black/white dichotomy, but unfortunately I only ever really experience the negative side of the duality - I don't idealize, I've yet to meet a T that I've been able to look up to or even respect very much. As for her competence, I'm not sure how to measure that apart from how I end up feeling all the time vis a vis what she says/does - she could be the world's most objectively competent therapist and still not be any good at helping me. I don't want to write her off (for lots of different reasons) and a lot of what I'm saying on this thread about her is dictated by how I've been feeling (pretty damn bad).
Mind you at the end of the day, it's going to be my feelings that determine whatever decision I make about therapy (that is providing she doesn't pre-empt me and boot me out before then
). Thanks for your support
.