my prime surface feeling that is in constant awareness is anger (and infinite variations thereof) and I've had a very hard time in my therapy career trying to find Ts who are able to accept anger directed at them.

I think this is telling. I guess the question is: why are you so angry? Is it about T or the past? If it's about the past, why is it important to unleash anger at your T?

The walking on eggshells comment makes more sense to me now. I grew up with a Father who was generally a pretty placid sort of man. But my childhood was filled with family stories about the legendary violent temper of my grandfather, and how my Father made a decision to not give in to that kind of anger himself. While that sounds admirable, its effect was to terrify me: that at any moment, such violence could erupt. It always lurked just under the surface, and never knowing what might be the trigger, I walked on eggshells all the time.

It's extremely tiring and destabilizing to be under such pressure. It wouldn't surprise me if that were a bit what your T is feeling.

The other thing is that such below the surface anger is very controlling and crazy-making because on the surface, there appears to be nothing wrong. Especially when combined with "blind trust" which is really not benign at all: it is a form of idealizing that allows for no margin for error, and so is very unforgiving.