It is hard to say whether what you are expierencing is indeed abuse. IF it he putting you down and making you feel worthless etc, then it is abuse. Emotional as well as verbal.
I'm sorry you are feeling this way, i'm sorry you don't feel appreciated etc.
You will find alot of support here, these are wonderful people, and welcome to the family.
<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>
<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>
<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>