I don't think it's stupid to want some closure after all that has happened. Whether it will work out or not is another matter, but yes, I do think you deserve a chance to be heard.

I had a pathological liar in my life for a while. It was an awful situation to be in. This person was so good at spinning stories, telling half truths, putting just enough factual evidence into her lies to make them all believable. The research that was clearly done to construct some lies was incredible and the lies she would bother telling over the tiniest little things (as well as the big things) were almost unbelievable. There certainly are people out there who seem to live with drama (from their lies) following them everywhere, yet they are so good at convincing others that it's down to everything and everyone else and they've done nothing wrong.

It would have done something really bad to me if that sort of stuff was tied into the huge ruptures I've experienced with my T. Both things, the lies and the ruptures are awful things to deal with. I do think you deserve to be heard and I wonder if your T is capable of distancing himself enough from the situation in order to hear you and help give you final closure. It sounds like he's so mixed up and has been so off track with it all. If T won't listen, then I hope you'll find the right person who will...when you're ready.