geez I feel terrible for you. I was raped many times by the same man as a young teen so I kinda know what you feel. For me sex does nothing. It is like everthing is numb. But this is not about me it is about how to deal w/ children and there developing bodies. Thank goodness I took classes in collage on child psy and sexuality was included in that.

For starters babies in utero touch there privite parts. From working in day care, I have seen first hand that little male bodies react to touch just like adults do. Females the same. Ever tried changing a diaper on a toddler. There little hands are everywhere in there diaper area. Put an older preschooler in a bathtub and they really need to find other toys to play with. Sexuality is normal and natural. We just have to keep an eye on our children, teach them to be safe, don't just scream stop if someone touches you, scream your not my daddy or mommy.

I have boys to. My mom made me believe sex was dirty and nasty. That never left me and then rape on top of that. It's no wonder I think the way I do. I do the best I can to be open w/ my boys and encourage them to tell me things that are important. My boys are now 13 and 15. The world is a scary place and our kids need us to be open so they are not afraid to talk to us.

Keep working in T. I'm sure things will work out the way they are supposed to.