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Old Feb 20, 2013, 02:13 AM
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I think many of the people, like me, who have tried to focus on the positive, really do hear where you're coming from too...or we probably wouldn't be stopping to try to give you an alternative perspective.

Personally I'm still caught up right now on the way my T has incorrectly worded things recently and I haven't worked through everything yet, so I really do get how hard it is. When I last saw her before she left for her break she called me intrusive, just because I'd wanted something (a reply to my text). I didn't do anything or ask for a reply. I just waited the whole Christmas break and then didn't even bring it up until my second session of this year. So it was all dealt with during my sessions...and I get called intrusive for wanting a reply. So I do think that incorrect wording can really hurt!

I just know from the past that there can be another way to look at the situation too. For me, when someone here points something like that out, sometimes I can't really take it in at the time, but later as I come to realise it for myself, I'm very grateful that someone tried to say something. Like when my T said I was intrusive this last time, even though I haven't had a chance to discuss it with her again, I think it was more a bad choice of wording than anything else. At least I hope so. I hope I'm still allowed to want things. Hopefully it's not a crime to bring them up as well, but I guess I'll find out and work with what I've got.

I do hope you're able to leave things in a slightly better place before the break.
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Thanks for this!
Lamplighter, pachyderm