Hi Torn,

While I can see some positivity in your T's response as other people have, I think I can also see how the negativity stands out more for you.

"I apologise if I said too much or jumped in too quickly."

Did you react negatively to the "if" because to you it was blatantly obvious that she did say too much and she did jump in too quickly and you feel angry and frustrated that it's not as obvious to her - that she actually has to question it?

" . . . and feel I am often walking on eggshells.. "

Antimatter, I'm so with you on this one. If someone was to tell me they felt they had to walk on eggshells while around me, I would take this as an insult. The reason being, that to me the person would be saying "It annoys me that I have to make an effort to watch what I say so as not to hurt you." My wonderfully twisted brain then turns this into "You're not worth that effort."

"I will keep on trying to work with you and provide an experience that is healing."

Yes, I can see the positive in this, but I can also see how it could be taken negatively. It's the word "trying" that doesn't sit right, because it implies that there is a chance that she might fail. For me, if she had written something like "I'll keep on working with you until I can provide an experience that is healing", that would have given me confidence that she wouldn't give up.

I know I've focussed only on the negative, but I think part of what you're looking for at the moment is to know that you're not alone in your thinking - that rightly or wrongly, there are other people who would have reacted in the same way that you have.

I think there's a lot of value though in thinking about the positive interpretations that other people have given you, too.

Bluey