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Originally Posted by Torn Mind
(((((( NL )))))) I didn't at all mean to denigrate or hurt people who have offered positive interpretations of my T's stuff - I very much appreciate your and other people's thoughtfulness in simply reading my stuff and taking the time to think about it and be supportive and helpful. And I thought you understood very well where I was coming from, your own story is frighteningly familiar. I must say I think you're very strong and brave to continue working through all the negative stuff that's coming up between you and T - I don't usually bolt per se, but given enough negative things I just can't even think to work on trusting anymore, so it's a big sign of your own goodness that you are able to keep seeing positives in your therapy.
I really hope things work out for you, sounds like you still have a lot of residual negative things to sort through. Thank you NL  |
One thing that kind of strikes me here is that you seem to be working yourself up a bit. I call it "kitchen sinking". It's when one thing happens - a poorly worded email for instance - and then this one thing calls in to question the entire relationship. Everything but the kitchen sink gets added on.
Let's take this one email okay? Look at it and ask "okay, is this one email enough to derail the entire relationship. Is this really the straw the broke the camels back or was there not much on that camel to begin with?"
No relationship is perfect. In fact, far from it. What you have to look at is the relationship as a whole, good AND bad.
FWIW, I do not think that the "trying" comment indicates that she is trying to keep you there to get your money. I'm a known leaper, and that's a leap in logic even for me.
On balance, good>bad? Yes/No?