Oh yea, I'm in the process of getting "screwed" in a major way. I got totally blindsided and my wife had been planning for the divorce for over a year. The laws vary from state to state so looking online is a good start.

some advice, make sure you know EVERYTHING about your finances, and as much as possible take control of them. You make the money so as long as you are married you do have that power, you might need to start flexing your might in that area. Don't deposit money into an account that you don't know where every dime is going.