I can't answer that. My husband felt the need to move back to our home town 2 years ago. Last year, not wanting to spend my entire life alone and traveling every month to "Visit" (He never reciprocated), I left a very good job and havent been able to get full time employment ever since. Since he lived with his mother, and she made it clear I was not welcome, I moved in with my sister, then with my daughter to help babysit, and then back to sisters, and finally I had enough and determined it was up to me to fully support myself so I rented somewhere and moved some of my things. I spent the last year thinking he might want to spend enough time with me to find out what was going on after all, we've now been married 40 years. I have gone through counseling all this time, and they suggested couples counseling too, but I never saw him long enough or without a grandchild in tow to discuss.