My boyfriend's mom called me abusive.

She also told me that I was allowed to stay in the house, while telling my parents that if they didn't come and pick me up that she'd file a domestic violence report.

And she told me that it would be short term, when my parents and her knew that it would long term, that I'd not move back in there ever again.

I was overly obsessed with doing everything right for my boyfriend. I still am. Possibly more so. To the point where its unhealthy for me. I was trying to use therapy to start to actually do things for myself for a change instead of never putting myself first.

There's no way anything I did was abusive unless not being able to handle living in a toxic environment, with people treating you like you were unimportant, and doing the best you can, and failing is being abusive; unless trying to not hate yourself, and trying to protect others is abusive; unless overworking yourself to take care of others because other people in the house wouldn't do things even when it made you have physical issues is abusive; when warning when you were reaching your breaking point and saying for a few days that you were going to break and to get away because you didn't want to hurt him...

But no, abusive. By someone who knew that you'd been emotionally abused before.

I can't even make my own tea. I can't even go back to the house to get my stuff.

Everything hurts.

Someone I've been talking to since then has suggested at some of my worst points I need to watch out to make sure I don't need hospitalization over this.