It's unclear from your post exactly what happened. Maybe that was on purpose. But being vague, not being specific, also makes it easy not to be rejected, because you never really come out and ask for anything. It becomes manipulative, and can become abusive, and was how I was raised, afraid to ask for anything, afraid to be a bother. Then you just want to take care of the other person and show them everything is okay. But it's not normal to be that unselfish and you crack. And end up here.