Hi I'm really sorry about what you are going through. I have just recently quit smoking after many, many years of being a hard core smoker. It always got my back up when someone suggested I quit or made a comment about me smoking and it had a reverse effect. Deep inside I knew I should quit and I hated myself for not being able to do it. It was a battle between my mind and the nicotine. I finally quit by using nicotine patches and an electronic cigarrette (E-Cigarette) - so effectively I was getting my nicotine from the patch but the feeling and the act of smoking from the ECig. It worked. It has now been 4 months and I hope never to touch one again - not because I wouldn't love to but because I know that for me is all or none and nothing in between. Perhaps your husband may consider giving up smokes if he has support like what I had but at the end of the day it is his choice and no-one can alter that. In the meantime I wish you both well. Take care