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Originally Posted by trdleblue
There is nothing like a mom interaction to make me want to bang my head against a wall. She called and woke me up last night, and it seems the only reason for her to contact me was to tell me that I'm a miserable person and going nowhere in life. Thank you mom. It's like she has some sort of beacon on me to tell her when I'm really not doing well, and that is her cue to sweep in with her momisims.
Sorry for being such a downer. I do hope everyone has a wonderful day. It should be a short day for me. It means less money, but I kind of want to hide today so I don't mind that much.
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Originally Posted by hankster
Mine swoops in when I AM doing well to demolish everything. You're just recovering from your last interaction with them, starting to gain a little speed, when WHOMP!! There it is. Like a tic. Like a tick. You hope maybe this time you'll be free, get past it - but no.
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I think many of us with toxic moms have had both of these experiences. Mine wants to tell me why everything is all my fault when things are going badly, and how if I weren't just so weird or unlovable things would be different. When things are going well, she wants to drag me down into misery so I won't think that I'm "better than everybody else." It is pretty much the same old thing over and over. "You think you're so smart because of X? You think X makes you better than everybody else? Well, it doesn't because of Y. And remember that time you did A, B, and C? All horrible mistakes even the dumbest person would know to avoid!"
Anyway, I solved that partially by eliminating my land line and only having my cell, where I can see how is calling. I just let it go to voice mail and then if it's a horrible rant at me, I can just delete it. She is trying to get around that by calling me at work. At work, though, I can just say I have a client coming in and have to go.