I don't know if I think supportive is a substitute word here. The one I see has told me she is not mean. I don't know if that means she thinks she is nice. I don't really perceive her as nice although I don't particularly desire her to be nice. In many ways, the second one I see is nicer in a sense and she can say things to me without sending me into a rage, get me to do things etc that the first one cannot.