Thanks for the article, MKAC. I found it as well as your comments interesting. My T has always been nice, and she still is, but she's being stricter with me, which is not as "nice", but probably what I need. I think a T can be "nice" and real at the same time.

I have a problem with "telling people the truth", though. What is the truth? How does anyone who posts here, including myself, know what the "truth" is for someone else? We can give our opinion, but that doesn't mean it's the "truth". I think we can be supportive and still tell the "truth" as we see it, but not make another person feel like we have all the answers, especially when most of us our searching for our own answers!