Thanks MKAC. Really I just want out of my marriage....that's all. I know that I won't get an apology or anything, don't expect or even want that...just want out and for them to leave me alone. Luckily I do have a great T to help with the other stuff. He's about at the end of his tolerance though and is pushing for me to get a restraining order ....ugh...just want it done. Anyway...sorry.