My T is very nice to me. I really like it. His being nice doesn't stand in the way of my progress in therapy--just the opposite. I came from 2 plus decades of a marriage in which my husband was not very "nice" to me. I think I equate "nice" with respectful. My T isn't rude to me. He listens to what I say. He doesn't interrupt. He looks me in the eye. He doesn't dismiss my ideas without considering them or before he's even heard them. He doesn't insult me or say hurtful things. He doesn't ignore me. He doesn't walk all over me. He respects my boundaries. All these things add up to "nice" to me. In the context of my marriage-that-didn't-work, it's been very healing to have a male therapist who is nice to me. So in that sense, I guess his being nice is therapeutic. If he replicated the rude actions of my husband, that would not be supportive, helpful, or therapeutic.