I don't care if she talks to guys or has lunch with friends. I just hate that she finds it necassary to hide it. It's not like I yell at her or make her feel bad. I just want some honesty about it. When she got defensive it bothered me. We never talked about what the limit is. I just know catching her phone sex with someone she met online is over what I consider to be faithful. I try not to be insecure about these things, it just hurt so much the last time, Im scared of going thru that again. My wife is the passive aggressive type. Im sure she just didnt want to deal with the guy so she ignored him, instead of telling him hiw she felt or at least to stop calling. It seems like all this stuff is happening at once. There was also another incident when we first started dating. I dont know if anything happened, but she went to visit a high school friend about a month after we moved in together. She didnt come home that night and didnt call. She told me the next day her phone died. Maybe it did I don't know. I just get the feeling that she doesnt want to be with me and is looking for someone else. Maybe it is just my insecurities and my inability to let go of what happened. I try to trust her, but I feel susposious sometimes. Going into this marriage I thought we both were in it together, but sometimes it feels like it's just me that wants it to work out.