Hello Cjharris123! Welcome to PsychCentral!

Eventually, a marriage counsellor may have to be considered when both you and your husband are ready.

It seems like you are the one willing to change to make the marriage work. From info provided, it's more difficult for him to do the work for that. And it appears that you are often trying to make it work and you negotiate from a defensive positioning. These are just my thoughts, I am not a counsellor, so take what you like, leave the rest behind.

But a marriage counsellor would be the best option. Take care.