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Old Feb 21, 2013, 06:10 PM
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Scads of bullying studies have focused on the victim but new research published Wednesday has put the bully in the hot seat. The journal JAMA Psychiatry reported that not only do the effects of bullying last well into adulthood causing depression, panic disorder, and agoraphobia, the victim doesn't suffer the most—the aggressor does.

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The study of 1,420 kids found that: Those who are victimized by bullies are three to five times more likely to experience these psychological effects throughout their 20s. Then there are kids who are just plain bullies, who are four to five times more likely to exhibit "anti-social personality disorder" characterized by a lack of empathy, lying, and criminal behavior. There's also a third type of bully: Kids who are both victims and bullies. These kids suffer the most, running a five-fold risk of depression and greater than a 10-fold risk of various panic disorders with the girls more likely to develop agoraphobia (a fear of spaces that don't have easy escape routes) and boys to later develop suicidal thoughts and behaviors. Researchers accounted for factors such as family structure and dysfunction, economic status and psychiatric problems.

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"We found that 20 percent of kids who are bullied go on to bully others," says clinical psychologist William E. Copeland, Ph.D., of Duke University Medical Center. "The bullies are usually former victims themselves who struggle at home and have low social skills. But instead of stopping the cycle because they feel a sense of empathy, they internalize bullying as a way to fit into the social hierarchy. Unfortunately these people can often become bullies at work."
What can be done to stop a child from being bullied or turning into one? According to Copeland, examining a kid's experience at school is the first step. "When we think of bullying, we often try to analyze what problems are occurring at home but there are plenty of kids with healthy, happy families who are terrorized at school," he says. "It makes sense for us focus on peer influence since kids spend most of their time at school and learn social behavior there."
Parents and teachers can also encourage kids to speak up when they witness bullying. "The harasser counts on his audience being too intimidated to report his behavior but if the school has a zero-tolerance policy, bullies won't be able to rely on the public for support," says Copeland.

If your kid is being pushed around at school, ask him to talk about it and try to stay calm so he won't feel guilty or self-conscious for sharing. Then notify the school; If your kid is the one pushing others around? You may want to get him or her counseling. And make sure they understand the consequences for their behavior. And ask the school to monitor his or her behavior.
Hmm not sure about that, kinda seems to indicate people in pain are wanting to hurt others...which well I am pretty sure the people who bullied me aren't the ones suffering the way I am or waiting on SSI for PTSD it was always the more popular kids that even had the teachers approval it was the people who went on to do things with their lives while I ended up like this...I wish I could accurately say 'well they had it worse then me so I just pity them.' but it simply was not the case they where bullying and picking on me for my vulnerabilities and differences not out of being insecure...except maybe the ones who went along with it to keep their cool status but no it wasn't typically the kid with bullying parents who consantly struggled with anxiety and depression picking on me.......I was that kid being picked on by others, the school community if you will.

The premise that the ones doing the harrasing are usually suffering more than the person they are hurting is not entirely accurate especially in my case...they weren't the ones suffering the constant ostracizm and being picked on by most of the class wondering why they couldn't have any friends like the other kids. I mean I am sure some of the time someone might take out their pain from bullying by in turn bullying others...but I internalized it and it harmed me I don't in turn take the harm that was done to me and shove it on others. In fact the very idea that someone in pain would want to hurt others has also done damage to me that is why people where suprised I wasn't the psychopath with the gun and justified their mistreatment of me in their heads.