Okay so brief background. I am kind of aloof. I always let my ex-husband hang with his friends whenever he wanted. A lot of his friends wives used to complain about it to me. It didn't bother me. Sometimes he was gone fishing all week-end. I don't expect a lot in return at least I don't think I do. If I am in a long term commitment like marriage. I want my SO to want me if he sees a hot woman. I want to be the only woman he loves with romantic love. One of my male friends says that guys aren't like that and I am being unrealistic is that true?