Something like that a) is a burden and b) very telling about your r/s I think. About how the other people think of you or treat you. It will give your t a lot of insight about them. I think you did good. Also IME these burden type revelations are best shared with T, not dumped on us poor dumb kids by clueless parents. Yeah totally things I did not want or need to know. And I'm kinda mad at your mom for dragging your H into it. What was she thinking?? Boundaries, mom!! He's your H, not hers.