dottie, maybe you should tell us all about him. How old was he? What was he like? Your anger with the girlfriend, anger with him? All of these things may help to loosen the load as you put him in the light again and share him and your feelings. The best thing that I ever did was learn to cry. I can't do it often but I do on occasion, cry. Used to be I couldn't cry for more then 30 secs due to abuse and such. But really crying over the loss and the pain has been soothing to me. Sharing the stories of my daughter and my dear friend helps me. It's especially cool when I can share them with another who knew them.

It's an invite dottie, tell us all about him, his life, his death, your pain.