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Originally Posted by Lynneledgewood
Okay so brief background. I am kind of aloof. I always let my ex-husband hang with his friends whenever he wanted. A lot of his friends wives used to complain about it to me. It didn't bother me. Sometimes he was gone fishing all week-end. I don't expect a lot in return at least I don't think I do. If I am in a long term commitment like marriage. I want my SO to want me if he sees a hot woman. I want to be the only woman he loves with romantic love. One of my male friends says that guys aren't like that and I am being unrealistic is that true?
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If he sees other women and finds that he is sexually attracted to them, that is not his fault. If he chooses to keep looking for the purpose of becoming increasingly turned on, then it starts to be on him.
At one point I had a factory job where the main work area was not properly heated or air-conditioned. During the summer when it was 100 degrees F outside and it felt like 115 F outside it would often feel another 10 degrees hotter still inside. I could drink 10 L of water on a shift and still be dehydrated. There were women working on all the lines and they were dressed for the weather. There were low cut shirts everywhere, and the shorts would start to fall down as the shift progressed. I don't know why so many people didn't wear belts there. If your eyes are open it isn't up to you what you choose to see, but it is up to you to decide what you are going to focus on. When I caught myself looking, I would decide to wait until I got home, where my wife was waiting for me. And then I would look at her.