Oh, I think that's easier to live in a city. At least if you join some group and feel really uncomfortable, you won't have to see the same people all the time.

Hmm, does your t know about the support group you considered? I worried about people finding out if I joined a support group too. I don't know. "Med director" sounds like a job title though, so is she or he required to keep confidentiality? If that's a requirement of his job, I think it's probably reliable. He would risk losing his job if he got caught breaking confidentiality. Maybe your t would know if it is a professional job and whether confidentiality is required (if you're not sure).