H has been to two of my sessions. Once before I was taking it seriously, and four weeks ago. He has also seen her for one session himself. I don't think he's actually hostile toward T, but he knows that the last couple of months with her was making me nuts. H is a very mercenary person. He thinks that feeling love for T or the thought of her feeling love for me is just dumb; hence the "stop paying her" comment.

When I told H what T said, he laughed and said if we win the lottery, the 911 center would never see his fat @$$ again. He wouldn't even call to quit. I'm in the middle of T and H. I'd make a large monetary donation (I work for a non-profit) and perhaps visit and/or consult on occasion if we remained local.

He doesn't mind my paying for therapy. We're just in a small bind right now. However, when I told her, T indicated that a) I shouldn't be embarrassed about it and b) I shouldn't worry about it...she intimated she'd see me anyway, probably because I will ensure she gets paid.