The new insurance laws are causing me more problems, this time between my H and me. He wants me to pay $20/week because the insurance is paying my T more than she used to get. I said that's not fair to her, and he said I should have 60 minute sessions, not 90 minutes. Since I'm not doing EMDR, I don't need all of that time, he says.

He has always been angry about my being in T, and now that he sees the $275 on the benefits letter instead of $150, he's furious! He doesn't think therapy has helped me, does not like meds, and doesn't see that DBT is helping either. In a way, I can't blame him. He's the one who had a good job, and a lot of that money has been spent on my therapy.

So, my T did say to pay what we're comfortable with, but I don't know if I should tell her that I'll see her for an hour from now on. I'm going to hate that, because I use every minute of that 90 minutes! Or, should I let her make that decision? Maybe seeing her for less time is another step toward separation from her. I know my H would like me to quit everything and never see a pdoc, T, or be in group therapy, ever. I don't think that would make him any happier, though. I'd be resentful of him, too. Any ideas for me? No, my H won't go to T though he came with me a few times. He's a good guy to put up with me for so many years. It's mutual. We each have our issues.