Hello Holly C.! Welcome to PsychCentral!

I guess from what you describe, he did not show much empathy. Do you think this is a weak point of his?

Or is it a lack of intuition? What is his reasoning behind this behaviour?(you are the expert, you can handle this headache or he might think if you are unwell interacting with you may have a negative outcome).

I ask these questions so that both of you will understand each other better. Hopefully, he will learn to response to your needs appropriately.

Another source of info would be how does his father treat his mother? Is he likely to have learned a behaviour pattern as he was growing up?

These are just suggestions about what you described. I focused on understanding the issue so an appropriate remedy will assist a change in behaviour. Plus a deeper understanding between the two of you. So, take what you like, leave the rest behind(I'm not certified therapist-just points to think about).

Both of you take care.