I think it can end in reconciliation. It depends on a lot of factors though and most separations are two people that really need to get away from each other and for good reason. In those cases, I think getting away from each other and separating just solidifies the idea that they want to be apart. I guess you have to truly have the motivation to reconcile in the separation and it will, quite truthfully take a lot of work. In my mind if I wanted to reconcile with my spouse, why would I want to get away from her? ::: shrugs :::

There are many that would say separation is a bad idea if reconciliation is the goal. The reason (and I'm stating what I've heard and read, not necessarily my opinion) they say is that the married couple experiences the freedom of being apart from the other and more often then not they choose to remain that way. It makes sense, even in a good marriage, sometimes being apart for a short time is necessary (like retreats and such) but without the good marriage to come back to... what binds are there to bring the spouse back?

Just my thoughts.

In summary, yes they can end in reconciliation but it doesn't happen as often as divorce and I wholeheartedly stand with Leed in that you have to get Therapy and work at it or no, it just won't help.

~S4 *hugs*