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Originally Posted by Syra
I don't assume that. I know it can happen. It happened to me. In very similar fashion. the therapist didn't own her feelings. The therapist blamed me for things I don't think were true and wouldn't discuss it. The therapist put me in a box that I didn't like, and then when I wouldn't go in the box ended discussions. Some therapists don't do their own work, and are in it for the wrong reasons. I'm sorry this happened.
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What Syra has described is what I have experienced as well. He said, specifically, "If you need to be angry in therapy then you be angry. It's my job to contain it." But he didn't. He decided that my anger was my being combative and that there was no point in discussing things any further -- that we wouldn't get anywhere. The reason we wouldn't get anywhere is because he wouldn't
hear me and own his own crap. Instead he said he would talk to me when it wasn't a "blame (name of t)" session.
Turns out he actually WAS doing therapy incorrectly for my condition (CPTSD). My current therapist is aware that this prior T relationship was actually retraumatizing. And gaslighting? Yeah -- that, exactly!