Rainbow8: He and I both agree that it's "our money" but he hasn't seen results from my years of T. He thinks, and part of me can't argue with him, that I keep going just because I like/love my T. He doesn't get it that it's my issue to deal with attachment problems and accepting limitations and what people can give me or not give me, in T and in RL.


Well I sort of get your husband. He is paying for not getting attention. I can understand the frustration. = " I am paying, so my wife can obsess and move her focus to someone else". It´s not about him, it´s completely about you and your T ...and you... you and you? He is not being mean... he is just having a human reaction. Who wouldn´t?.....He tells you he hates you being in therapy...do you listen to him?? You agree with him that it doesn´t help.Ever thought of given back?? Not practically but emotionally in your relationship? After 30 years of marriage and you being in T for 18 years, I suspect it´s not about the money. He may just be plain old tired.