I'm lucky enough to have my 34 yr. old daughter to live with my mom and my mom is able to care for herself. My daughter and I manage the finances and everything else, this has been the operation of things for years now, mom almost lost her home to the bank so I took everything over and the home is paid off and there is a little money in the bank (don't tell her). Mom was in a car wreck 4 wks ago and was banged up badly but is doing much better. I found myself to the breaking point with anxiety and stress due to all this , my BP stuff was going off the charts, but the immediate issues were of her health obviously , but there is so much more to a car wreck. The legal stuff is beyond my understanding so with suggestions from people, a lawyer was hired. I'm at the point where he has finally taken the control of most of the legal issues , but, in having this wreck...I don't think my mom will work again. With some wrong choices she quite her job to care for her mother and used all her retirement to support herself years ago. There is no way my daughter can support the both of them . If possible the house would be sold , then mom would live with me . I fear for my life , I could recuperate without her here , I'm pretty much a solitary. I PRAY she can go back to work , but I may be facing this scenario sooner or later . I'm actually back at the PsychCentral site because of the flare ups from this , which has been a big help to be here. I'm journaling , that has been an outlet helping me much more than I could have expected.
I'm sure others have or are dealing with aging parents and find it ...well...scarey . So how do you do it ???