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Originally Posted by tractionbeam0610
This isn't helpful to your overall situation...but my ex-husband felt left out and was jealous of the attention I gave my chronically ill cats.  Some of that came out in our therapy together, otherwise I would never, ever have thought it a possible option...he wanted more attention and felt like I cared more for them than him.
So your H might not agree and might be against your therapy because he doesn't feel part of it or understand it, or feels jealous of the feelings you have for your T and perhaps wonders (even if it's somewhat unconscious) where your feelings for him fit in.  |
It IS helpful because it's true. Thanks. I try, but right now we're arguing again about therapy and how I'm wasting my money. He won't go to marriage counseling, of course. He is angry about my T's salary. I guess all T's salaries. So am I, but I don't go yelling about it! I don't think we're happy with each other but we're staying together. Neither of us wants a divorce. I don't know if I love him or not and I don't know if he loves me but I'd be miserable without him. Married 40 years; we're not going to separate now. Too much stress. Then I'd need T and wouldn't be able to afford it at all! I keep trying to be nice to him, but it's very difficult.