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Feb 22, 2013, 04:26 PM
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Of course I don't think it's unrealistic Lynn.
In the past whenever I have responded to situations like this I have been criticized because what I feel is apparently impossible; men are supposed to be the same or similar with regards to how we see women, attractiveness, sex, relationships, and so forth.
The last time I was in a relationship was 5 years ago, and when I was dating her, I didn't look at other women like that or even so much as spend time with another woman. She would later leave me and that would be the end of relationships for me for a long time. I don't know if this was a healthy thing or not for me to be so focused on a single individual, but I didn't really have others in my life either, which made it more difficult for me.
But I don't think men are 'wired' to be attracted to other woman whenever we see them. Frankly, I think too many people lack a real understanding of human nature, and too often associate a common human behavior as being 'wired' in or 'human nature.'
Furthermore, I don't think physical attractiveness is half as important as it is made out to be, and that might be the reason I am rarely, if ever, attracted to female strangers I come across. My last GF was unattractive in the conventional sense of the word – overweight, awkward, bad skin, etc. – but I thought she was absolutely stunning  . Really, I don't find that I take much notice of people's appearances until after I know them, or sometimes not at all. True story, someone I am close to was around 7 months pregnant, and I didn't notice!
I don't know if this helped at all but these are my thoughts.
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