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Feb 22, 2013, 07:46 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2011
Location: Northeast USA
Posts: 23,288
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Originally Posted by hankster
Unless they take this opportunity to declare him a masher. This would be like pleading guilty when you're innocent.
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Actually hankster, no, its not really. I do see how you might see it that way. But the picture I am getting from unhappyguy is that this is an intentional bully thing. So what that means is "they want to intimidate him" because they are looking for some kind of "control" or "sense of power". If he reacts with an off the cuff, "that feels good, need that human contact today" and even in a light hearted way, "not a creepy way" they will not expect that and they will want to "distance" from him. Avoiding and showing "anger" is more guilty than anything IMO. That is "what they want'.
It is not like he can carry a cane and hit them when they do this, that would be feeding into it, even give "them the reason to call foul". Even if he "elbows" them, they want that too, because that tells them they are making him angry.
Hey, it is just my suggestion, something I have done myself in certain situations and it has worked for me.
There were times I had to think "quick" on my feet so I could stop this kind of agression type stuff. I wish I knew how on that school bus so long ago. However I sure helped my daughter do it and it worked for her.
She had two girls on her bus that were that way with everyone, including her. So, we decided to call them Bevis and Butt Head. And one day on the bus she laughed at them and said, Ok, Bevis and Butt Head, and the entire bus laughed. It put them in their place.
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