Ok.. I am going to be honest in this thread, I hope I don't come off as a terrible person.

About 6 years ago I had an "emotional affair" with another person ( a woman, actually) The most we did physically was make out.. Phew.. that is hard to admit. H knew that this woman had feeling sfor me and that we spend a lot of time talking to each other, but he does not know that we ever kissed or that I reciprocated those feelings back for her. We were talking about feelings in T session today. He said, I shouldn't feel bad about having those feelings, we can't control those.. What we can control is what we do with those feelings i.e. the kissing part..

Do you agree with this? I would think as a married woman I should have been more careful not to let those feelings ever happen. Like, once I learned she had feelings for me I should have distanced myself from her, in order to protect my marriage. T seems to think, feelings happen and not to feel bad about those.

What say ye? Are feeling something we control?? Or do they just happen.