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Feb 22, 2013, 08:37 PM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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Quote:
Originally Posted by healed84
He said, I shouldn't feel bad about having those feelings, we can't control those.. What we can control is what we do with those feelings i.e. the kissing part..
Do you agree with this? I would think as a married woman I should have been more careful not to let those feelings ever happen. Like, once I learned she had feelings for me I should have distanced myself from her, in order to protect my marriage. T seems to think, feelings happen and not to feel bad about those.
What say ye? Are feeling something we control?? Or do they just happen.
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I half agree with you and half maybe wtih your T. I don't think we can control feelings. And we can control our behavior to a large extent (except that hormones can be awfully powerful!!) And people generally are very reactive. If we were really able to control our behavior a whole lot more people wouldn't find themselves doing things they don't want to do.
I can avoid situations in which my feelings may be too strong for me. Whether it's feelings of affection, or anger, or fear.
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