I used the technique of journaling to discover any unconcious attachments or beliefs (untruths) that I hold about myself and how I operate in the world. It is quite an emotionally charged area so here goes..........

It was on the topic of being alone/attached to a significant other I disovered it was a fear of the unknown that really scared me and dissapointment and possibly insecurity. I associated these words with my core. They formed up my personal beliefs hesitant, unworthy and unloveable

When I look back upon this and try to see how I operate today with relationship matters. I have noticed that I will not even attempt to try to get to know another person say if they are interested in me. In other words it's come to a point where I don't even try. For example my thoughts would run along the lines of why is she looking at me?

But the main problem to me seems to be that I think I may really like someone that is not available. I just cannot seem to accept that she has moved on with her life and is happy with someone else. I think she was intially interested in me for quite a long time but seems to have given up hope as I never tried.

A while ago I saw her walking down the street and she smiled at me and for some reason (to which I still don't know) I rolled my eyes and it kind of upset her. This sort of thing gives me a belief that she may still be interested in me after all this time (just the timing hasn't been right).

Maybe I need to work out my issues first before I go on to find a suitable partner. What are your opinions on this unusual situation (in other words what should I do)

When you have discovered helpfull insights about yourself how do you go about making a change in your life? So that these untruths can finally be removed.

Any help, suggestions would be greatly appreciated