Welcome Rhoda..

You are a Survivor, and you should not feel you have to gage the traumatic events you were forced to endure against anyones else's...what you describe is a horrible way to live in a dysfunctional family dynamic, emotional abuse is just as destructive as physical abuse, and can have hurtful consequences on how one relates in relationships and with oneself....witnessing loved ones abused and then being neglected yourself, at any level, is wrong...we have a State liscence plate which states...."It shouldn't hurt to be a kid"...and hurt is hurt...whether thats emotional, physical, sexual, whatever...please take care and again welcome, and hope you find the support and caring enviroment that can help you on your healing journey..

Eva