Shame on these folks for not seeing what's inside. Yes, some people can't get past looks (and even claim they're telling people about Jenny Craig or WW or whatever for the person's own good.) But, I can say from personal experience, since I am officially obese, that I KNOW I am obese. And I don't need anyone pointing that out!

I do believe we should try to maintain or get back to a normal weight, but this does not happen over night. I am still the same person I was when I was a normal weight.

Many of us here, I dare say, are overweight. I try not to get depressed about it, and it makes me mad when folks mention it. My mother is good at doing that--or maybe I should say "bad."

Some men like women who have some meat on their bones. If you encounter a man or anybody who says what they have said to you, then to answer your question, I say it's "everyone else."