I think I misread this initially. I've been doing a lot of that lately!
Yes, I think when there is something to discover, a therapist will encourage a person to not move away from the moment.
An example I recall from early in my current therapy, is when I was explaining (confessing), rage I had in a particular situation. Sorry I can't provide details to make it more understandable. I was telling her to show her what an awful person I am. As I was about to shrink back from, pull back from, the telling, she encouraged me to keep going, to stay with it. I was able to do that and it gave me the opportunity to move from the shame and self-hate to the realization of what it was I wanted in that situation. I remember feeling I could trust her to keep going, to stay with it, and when I realized that what I had wanted then "I just wanted him to love me", she was right there with me, nodding with understanding and not judging me; we talked about how strong the desire was, and how lost I was regarding wanting to be loved. She really got it, and she helped me to get it too, by holding me in the moment. It was not done to make me suffer, it was done to help me come through the other side, to a better understanding of it.
It was a defining moment in my therapy. I realized I could trust her with anything.
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