Illigal Toilet, Love the name first and for most. In answer to your question here is what I see.

I want to help her financially by having her in my home and also I can see how there is an added bonus that she can do the housework . . .

Come live in my home, not lets make this our home, or lets share this house, and the house work, oh yippee. I get to clean your house. Oh I don't think so would be my answer. It's not to late to revisit that conversation.

Does she work? That changes things a little. If she does you both clean house. If you want a house keeper hire one, who cleans your house, you. How about you move in here and clean my house. Now does that has a bad ring to it or what.

Does she live w/ her parents or struggle w/ rent? That arrangement might work. If it is lets share our living arrangements or even I'd love to have you here and wake up w/ you in the mornings, but not come live in my home. That says you have the authority. And granted you may have the authority it is your home, but by letting her in you are sharing that w/ her but she might not feel like it will be shared.

With out knowing her living arrangements it is hard to understand this fully. A friend of mine who never had any intention of working and lived w/ her mom met a man who needed his house maintained. She had a child from a previous oops and she and her baby needed a home. She has been married to this man for 15 years now. The 5 kids, her and her H. She has never worked a day in her life and is quite content to stay at home and raise their children and take care of all of the needs on the home front. He brings in the bacon and she takes care of things. Not all women are opposed to staying home and cleaning. I stay at home and my H works. But I am not living here w/ my H to be his maid. If he wants a house keeper he can go and hire one. If he wants a baby setter for his kids he can send them to day care. But we share a home. He owns it, paid for it, built it, but it is ours.

Hope that helps, that struck me a little wrong and my personal feeling may have gotten the way but it is something to consider. It is a subject that can be revisited w/ a well planned descussion, good luck to you both. Keep us up dated.