hamster-bamster: The scars are mainly on my stomach and one small one over my eye (which is barely noticeable). My doctor mentioned that eventually I can use a product like mederma to help reduce the scaring. He says that waiting longer will make it work better. I'm fully recovered from the surgeries. The medical bills were covered by a victim's assistance program, so luckily I didn't have to worry about all of that. I was living in Illinois at the time that happened. I will definitely head over to the dissociation forum with issues directly involving my boyfriend, however this seemed more related to my own relationship issues. I guess maybe it's both of us, afterall we're in this together.

riotgrrrl: I had thought about the fact that it IS his friends opinion. It probably is, but I get really insecure thinking he either agrees with his friend behind my back or is too scared to tell me that it's not how his friend feels, but how he feels. Geez, that sounds really messed up. You're definitely right that we need to work on our communication. Doing the long distance thing for a while kept the relationship really light hearted. I guess sooner or later I'll have to learn how to handle these issues with him. No use wasting my time with someone that doesn't trust me or care to know, better to talk to him and find out sooner rather than later. He had a really terrible childhood, but hasn't opened up to me on the extent of the neglect. Having developed something like DID, I imagine things were a lot worse than he leads them on to be. Thanks for the great advice, you post really opened my eyes to a couple of things that I was being too selfish to realize. Thank you!