I'm not sure if I will tell the kids I've had to block him... I may tell my daughter, almost 19, leave out the lovely v-word details, but just so she knows why I had to cut him out. Idk, just thinking he may try to mess with their heads more. He's very vindictive towards me, I think it's more his priority than the children's well-being.

But my son, he's in recovery and really fragile state, gets pretty angry any time his dad is mentioned. But should daddy call - he'll talk to him for hours - still needs his dad. And dammit, I tried really hard to find a good male role model for him, but that never panned out.

I will find the balance of kindness and protect my sanity at the same time. I will resist any further communication with him.